I recently read a study that attempted to determine the average length of the erect penis by examining upwards of 15, men. These intrepid, probably very-interesting-at-a-dinner-party researchers determined that the average penis size is exactly 5. Where was I for this? Call me next time, science. Answer One: 5. Based solely on anecdotal evidence from my vast network of promiscuous acquaintances, a little more or less in that general neighborhood works best for most people—men and women—who enjoy penetrative sex with penises. Of course, certain people prefer their penises more to one side of the Bell curve. Which leads us to Answer Two: you should really not give an eff about your dick length, average or otherwise. Do your best not to obsess over it— particularly in the context of whether or not a woman will like it.
Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative anal sex, you can—and should! This is open to interpretation and could mean anything from toys to fingers or mouths. Or not!
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Kathy had a relationship with Keith Alan Raniere in the s. She found out many things about him, including that he lied to her about having cancer — and cheated on her while pretending they were in a monogamous relationship. Here is her account. She wrote this at my request and with the hope that it might help other women who have been in destructive relationships with Raniere or other monsters of his ilk. Why do intelligent, successful women get snared into a destructive relationship with Keith Raniere?