When out on a date with a Mormon guy or girl, be very decent, courteous, and well-mannered. Two people can be as completely different as it is possible to be and respect each others' beliefs. It is hard work. But on saying that I do empathise with you all and a Doctor is very challenging and I know my Dad was always working and it is a demanding job for their spouses to live their lives but hey nothing at the top is ever easy. For reference we're both in our mids. Because you are a good person, you will recognize the influence of the Holy Ghost and know that the church is true. You matter, they love you, so please don't ever feel alone-your husbands hearts are right there with you. I am hopeful and do feel some healing.
She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with. And for your husbands, you are that person. What am I getting myself into. Dozens of missionaries have told me that the gender ratios in other countries are far, far worse.
Maybe we'll break up in a month. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things. I had tears in my eyes and goosebumps while reading it.
My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. As a general authority I knew, now deceased, told me in the mid-eightiesвIf you find a good man who is not LDS, marry him. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. All people see is the money and that's it. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself.