God created us with hundreds of thousands of microscopic nerve endings in our skin designed to sense and benefit from a loving touch. A tender touch tells us that we are cared for. It can calm our fears, soothe pain, bring us comfort, or give us the blessed satisfaction of emotional security. As adults, touching continues to be a primary means of communicating with those we love, whether we are conscious of it or not. Our need for a caring touch is normal and healthy and we will never outgrow it. But if touching is so valuable and pleasurable, why is it necessary to advise couples to do more of it? The answer lies in our culture. While our western civilization is highly sexual, it frowns on or ignores touching apart from sex.
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As anyone who has ever been in love knows, a good relationship is not all about sex. Sexual chemistry counts but affection and attentiveness without the expectation of sex can create a true bond between two people. One of the foundations of a good relationship is the ability to build intimacy, without making it all about sexual goals.
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Why do we do that? As the summer wore on, I started noticing how I physically interact with the people in my life. I want people to feel noticed, heard, seen, loved. My hugs are super tight, but short.
We have been made to believe that sex alone is the most intimate thing in a relationship. What if we tell you there are other, non-sexual ways that will make you feel more intimate and closer to your partner than a hot shower make-out episode? In fact, these are some ways that can help blossom your feelings for each other into seasoned, mature love. It is great to have amazing sex in all its dirty glory and shining pride, but sex is not everything in a relationship. Through the ups and downs of life, you need other things to carry your relationship forward, and sex can only be one of them. That does not mean you should not invest your time in having good, passionate, amazing sex with each other. It just means that emphasis should also be placed on other ways to get intimate in your relationship. Sex cannot see you through when your honeymoon period gets over, and it cannot always be that hot and amazing it was in the initial days. And that is why these non-sexual ways should be made a part of your relationship to keep it thriving, healthy, and full of life and happiness. Image source.
